Every male with a biological child is a father. That goes without saying. But there’s a huge difference between dad and father. A dad is an individual who has the potential to love their child unconditionally, who will do anything for their children and their family and who will teach their children how to be independent while still staying in the fold.
When a man becomes a father in the eye of the law, he is automatically granted rights to his child. When a man becomes a dad, on the other hand, he has to work for those same legal rights (despite working for them emotionally from day 1). What are the differences between these two roles?
This blog discusses what separates these two very important nuanced words and how they are truly different.
Father Vs Dad – Little Differences Are A Big Deal
A father is usually seen as someone who has contributed sperm or done some kind of “donation” in order to help create a child, but technically speaking they can also just refer to anyone who has taken parental or legal responsibility for the child (stepfather for example).
Dads are fathers who enjoy their children and feel like they should be responsible for them.
A dad is an individual who has the potential to love your child unconditionally, who will do anything for you and your family, who will teach you how to be independent while still staying in the fold.
Father is often used more formally as a noun in place of dad.
A father is more of a biological term than a role or relationship
The definition of a father is, according to Oxford Languages, “(of a man) cause a pregnancy resulting in the birth of (a child) or alternatively “a man in relation to his child or children.
“a person whose job is to take care of a child and be responsible for them.”
The The definition of a dad is, according to Oxford Languages of a dad is “one’s father”
It seems that the print on demand shirt industry agrees with me, there are countless of designs out there with the slogan “anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad”
From a species standpoint, there is also a significant difference noted between a father and a dad.
Men who stick around and are actively involved in their children’s upbringing belong to 5% of mammals who have investing fathers and the only ape.
So for this reason alone we should celebrate the word dad instead of father.
From now on I think we should call it “Dad Day” and remove “father’s day” from the use.
Dad Vs Father – Which Is More Appropriate In English?
From the tone of my messaging so far, you should be able to tell that I believe that the word dad should be used in most cases in lieu of the word father father.
Father is a word for a biological parent, whereas dad can be used to describe someone who has acted as an involved person in one’s life.
Father should be used for a more formal rigid description of the person you are talking about or the person you’re speaking to. So, when you ask “what is the difference between a father and a dad”, you’re asking for a formal or informal clarification of exactly who is being referred to in the sentence.
In casual social interactions with friends, use Dad. When speaking to your bosses and using larger words to impress them while wearing a suit…use the word father.
What Is A Dad? – The Ingredients
Dad’s know that being a parent is difficult work .
Good dad’s continually work on their relationships. They don’t assume that their role will be a mystical one in which they possess all knowledge and all power — or that they are better than anyone else at closeness. They realize that the best way to be close is to talk and listen to their children, assuming many of the same responsibilities, roles, and values as mothers do.
Dad’s are always there for their children.
They are prepared to go the extra mile — or an extra 12 miles — to be there for their children. Good dad’s are involved in their children’s lives.
Dad’s protect their children from harm
They don’t allow themselves to be defined by what they do for them. They recognize that the best way to protect them is by providing an example that makes them more capable than the typical child.
Good dad’s have a sense of the big picture.
Good dad’s can be themselves.
They can be vulnerable, honest, and real in their relationship with their children — whether it is goofing off, helping with homework or dealing with the loss of a loved one. When they are not at their best, good dad’s are able to apologize to their children for their mistakes and shortcomings.
What Is A Father? – The Ingredients
Father’s Fail to discipline their child(ren).
I know it sounds a little bizarre how could not disciplining a child be neglectful. Well it can be neglectful when you don’t discipline a child when he does wrong by ignoring it. Not disciplining a child allows him or her to think that is OK to do whatever he wants, that his behavior will not get him in trouble.
Father’s Do Not Accept Their Child For Who They Are
Not accepting their child for who they are. Many times your child won’t have the same interests as you. The issue is you by not accepting who they are.
This doesn’t mean you should just go along with their interests, but you must learn about them in order to relate.
A neglectful parent is someone who does not meet the needs of a child.
Not Noticing Or Caring About Accomplishments (Even the small ones)
Part of being a parent is noticing the small things. Notice that your child has gotten dressed by themselves without asking? They are becoming more independent. Notice they did it all by themselves Wow! They must be proud of that.
By not noticing the small things that a child does, they are not rewarded for the small accomplishments they do. Instead it teaches them that their accomplishments are not good enough or important and it is much more fun to do something bad than something good.
Father’s Day Should Be Renamed
Father’s day should be renamed to Dad day. Dad’s are the one’s we all want to have as children.
Dad is the word that a baby learns to say because a Dad is around.
Bye Dad, bye Mom is the word that a teenager says before going out with her friends.
To all dads out there, whether a dad of a child or an adult, happy Dad day!